心碎往事

片子非常棒，很动人，对白不乏幽默，悲戚处也不犹让人落泪。

先想说说扮演主人公Tommy的小演员Anton Yelchin，我有种感觉，觉得他很像River Phoenix，眼眉、鼻子、嘴、下巴、还有声音。

他演的真好，和Robin Williams相得益彰。

Erykah Badu我只听过她的歌，她演的女囚虽然戏份不多，但却是个至关重要角色。

这是个关于男人心灵成长的故事。

苦难也许会让人成长，但并没有使他成熟。

没有人主动选择苦难，当命运还是让苦难降临的时候，主人公选择了承担，并学会了苦中作乐。

因为他有自己的精神支柱：母亲、朋友、倾诉的对象——女囚。

他们让他乐观并坚强。

直到母亲变成植物人，一切都开始塌陷。

他一直是个“男孩”，直到他有了自己的孩子，找到了新的精神支柱，才让他敢于面对自己过去经过的苦难岁月和自己“弑母”的选择，才让他成熟，让他成长为一个男人。

其实与Lady（女囚）相比而言，母亲和智障的朋友Pappass（Robin Williams饰）对他都更重要。

但Lady更像一个心灵的导师，她在他陷入命运无情漩涡而不能自拔的时候推了他一把，将他义无反顾地推入了新的人生。

（这么好的人怎么会进监狱？

）片名叫作《House of D》，其含义大概就在这里吧。

故事一般，重在情感和细节。

成长的过程总是痛苦的。

衔接的有点仓促，我断断续续看的，感触不深，中途有几个片段让我有点感动。

结尾大团圆。

你说它治愈吧也还好，你说它不治愈吧其实又有点温情可言。

个人感觉为主吧。

感兴趣的可以看看。

但它又打个喜剧的标签，我感觉没多喜剧，甚至有点悲伤。

而且我去搜了下，听说海报上的主角一老一小已经去世了，还是给我整破防了一点点，里面的派派竟然是《机器管家》里面的主角，难怪这么眼熟。

life is change ，always change 。

接受和面对，勇敢创造，才能走的潇洒，走的开心。

电影里充满了许多温情的画面，有爱情 ，有友情 ，更重的是亲情。

起初接触时，我以为又是一部爱情不能完美的纠结剧，但是，大卫很让我意外的投入的看完了这部电影，甚至还想回味那些美妙的片段。

每个主人公都过着一种在变的生活，就在逝去和将得到之间一直改变着。

那个女黑人说，我们都做了我们不得不做的事情。

这就是生活，每个人都出演着“生活”这一部电影，但担当的角色不同，无论主配觉，只要你认真，你融入，那么就会出彩。

改变着改变的，不变着不变的。

如果有那么一天，就像童年尽头的一道门，那扇无论你是否愿意，都要独自打开的门，你是否会在意它是轻掩着，紧闭着，或是早已消失？

我从不喜欢羡慕别人的人生，就像不喜欢后悔自己的人生一样，谁的记忆里都可以找到一片别致的绿色，谁的花园里都会有断壁残桓。

我心碎，我后悔，我逃离了哀伤，但却无法逃离自己。

如果还有机会，我能够站在13岁自己的面前，说一句话，我不会安慰一个被世界迷惑的孩子，我会和他并肩走在那狭窄的行道上，用新鲜的曲调，哼唱那首老歌，如果你试过了你该做的，剩下的请交给人生。

这是一部中规中矩的电影，对于青年时期的迷茫和遗憾，爱和友谊。

在叙述这位13岁青年的成长故事时，故事结构是非常完整的。

首先，它贯穿了青年产生遗憾和回到故地面对遗憾的整个过程，并呈现了主人公完整的心理变化。

再写，在各人物塑造方面，无论是需要被照顾的妈妈，还是真正给予青年成长建议的监狱lady，低智商朋友，青春期爱上的女孩和成年爱上的女人，每个人的个性都是成立的，打动人心的，同时，他们也堆积了青年成长所需的元素。

另外，故事的走向有一种浪漫感，像安徒生童话中才可能发生的情节。

Ps～青年站在街边迷茫地仰头发问，lady即使只是简单粗暴地解答，但都会点出人生真理。

这样的画面让我联想到，青年像在向上帝发问，而无论决定为何，怎样走下去？

最终的答案都应取决于自己的心。

2017.07.07凌晨，可能真正的心碎是两位主演都已不在人间吧。

captain！

oh，my captain！。

鲍勃迪伦曾唱到“要走多少路才能称为男人”，其实是父亲离世的那一刻。

13岁的汤米不得不照顾那个精神世界随父亲而去的母亲。

心理年龄只有13岁的41岁帕普帕斯，他们阴影不离，直到汤米喜欢上了别的女孩，而他的生活也随之彻底改变。

His father's sudden death of cancer let Tommy and his family get into mess. mother crying herself to sleep taking medicines to calm .Tommy usher was in his youth, like every boy in this age restless and uneasy nowhere to vent his energy .His only way to relieve the bitterness of heart was being naughty.Tommy's adolescent life was not smooth .He joked his heart beating girl malisa flat in front of bad boys which caused him being bullied by a group of girls scoffing him small balls ,"small balls playing basketball" .But in fact ,malisa also has a deep loving feeling for Tommy . After school, Tommy worked in a deli as a delivery boy. Tommy and his friend Palupas (Robin Williams) spent most of their time together. Palupas was a mature but immature "older kid" with whom tommy formed a sincere and deep bond. In an accident, Tommy met Lady (Erykah Badu), a prostitute in detention (prison woman ), who lead him into the world of adult love, both sweet and bitter. An accident destroyed tommy's free life, it not only ended Tommy's present, but also affected his future.David Duchuvny is a sexy man with whom too many Yong women want have babies.minor 未成年人; 小调;小音阶; 职业运动小联合会; 副修科目; 副修课程; 小前提; 禾夜蛾score executive producer 配乐总监She was convinced that all such disease could be prevented by mammoth intakes of leafy, green vegetables. Specifically, she believed in the magic of the brussel sprout.I am not a crook.Watergate, schmatergate. That's all I have to say.small-fry.（相比较之下）不重要的人（或事物）people or things that are considered unimportant compared to sb/sth elseNixon sayswe're in a recession. Inflation,il embargo, Yankees in the cellar... Horace Clark's at second base. Garbage strike, transit strike, fiscal crisis.All right. Suburban flight, soft rock, art rock,All right.

常想每个人都在祈求平安幸福，这个世界上的那么多苦难谁来吞咽呢？

而看似的幸运却往往不及不幸更有所得。

苦难让人成长，也拓展了生命的宽度广度。

这部影片就是体现。

失去父亲，脆弱的母亲，弱智朋友，得不到的爱，陌生人的入侵...然而一切都这样美好。

他们之间有着美好的友谊，在埋钱的地方又遇到了看守所里的善良女人。

正是这些人温暖了他的内心，也给他铺垫了一条与众不同的人生路。

因为苦难，所以生活得更加有滋味。

片中一些细节很窝心。

比如偷偷数妈妈的药片，趴在船下睡觉，临行前拔掉妈妈的氧气，和帕帕斯一起坐车买票去法国，两人在无人的通道里，汤米交待帕帕斯不要喝太多饮料否则会发胖不要像他爸爸一样酗酒...帕帕斯反复说着，要做好事，要做好事...成长的过程也许青涩，但已经美好。

This is a movie filled with delicate emotions. It's niche and highly rated. Worth recommending.Tommy is outstanding in every aspect: intelligence, learning, and character. He's worth learning from and reflecting upon our own youth. He takes care of his mother, who has become sensitive since losing her husband, and rarely experiences moments of happiness. He is her only support. The only time he sees his mother laugh heartily is when they play ball together. However, soon he mentions that he wants to go to a dance party, which shows that he pays attention to bringing joy to his mother. He gets anxious when he oversleeps at his girlfriend's house. He even dresses up as a funny uncle to amuse his mother. They rely on each other, but emotionally speaking, Tommy is more understanding. When I was young, I often indulged in expressing my various emotions without considering the pressure it might put on my parents. Sometimes, I would even hide like a turtle. Every family has harmony and conflicts. Not to mention his academic achievements—he's a scholarship magnet. And in terms of character, he is loyal to his mentally challenged friend. If I were 13, I wouldn't even admit to having such a friend. But when I was very young, I had a friend like that, too, in a rural environment. However, I believed it was because I was too young and ignorant. After I developed a sense of shame in junior high school, I thought it would be impossible for me to do the same. Tommy carries this friendship into his middle age and will continue to do so. We should cherish the friends we have in different stages of our lives. Only by maintaining this mindset can we meet those lifelong soulmates.Regarding the convict woman, she is Tommy's life mentor and an important character during his adolescence. During our own adolescence, we also encounter many people like her, but I believe that human nature is shaped by ourselves. What kind of person you are will attract people with corresponding personalities. They will then further shape you, but ultimately, it is your own nature that drives this self-transformation. We need to pay attention to our inner selves, to identify what is good and what is not, in order to truly change ourselves.Tommy has a complicated but happy life. I hope we can all find our own House of D. It is a garden, a prison, and a library. It is your inner self and also the part of you that can be changed.

2016.9.4 20:45 《House of D》一直没办法静下心看一部电影，这一部静静在手机里躺了三个多月..直到今天..被我翻了牌子..故事记录男主13岁时期人生发生转折的故事，母亲 弱智朋友 初恋 以及女子拘留所的神秘Lady..在男主即将到来的13岁之前好像一切都是顺风顺水..春风得意，和挚友共同攒钱追寻梦想，跟母亲玩闹，和Lady倾诉，但这一切从如愿吻到心仪女孩开始改变，好基友翘气了，怒砸橱窗玻璃，偷走他们的“梦想”，将一起积攒下来的钱丢进河里（钢镚儿撒出去的那一刻看得我肉疼..）母亲哭诉儿子骗了自己，然后精神崩溃服药了..然后负气的小男主就跑去找他的初恋，初恋避而不见，又去找被拘留的神秘Lady,这位知心大姐却成了压垮他的最后一根稻草，也可以说是在小男主陷入命运无情摧残时的救命稻草，让他离开..。

现实抛弃了你,才能逼你勇敢面对，当失去所有美好，伤心欲绝时，无论如何，还有自由..自由啊..多么好。

这就是蝴蝶效应？

每件事都有它存在的意义，人生总是会有不同的选择，每一个选择都能带来不同的影响，有太多如果当初的悔恨，让人不得不去想，如果当初选择的是另一个选择，那么，结局会不会有所不同..官方宣传有段话是成长--就意味着你要离开某些人、放弃某些坚持、告别某些地方，都是一些痛苦的经历，却是人生必经的过程。

而这些还不足以让人成长，终究还是要去面对过去，才真正没有遗憾，才能完完全全完成成长这一蜕变..不是有句老话嘛..上帝在给你关上一扇门的时候，总会为你留一扇窗。

时间能够给人去面对的勇气，也可能是将来会发生的某件事会给你鼓起勇气直面内心的契机。

做你该做的，其他的交给人生吧。

（反正再怎么折腾也没用🙄）